"Shhhhh..."

January 1, 2020

"Shhh"

Shhh:  1. interjection, used for telling someone to stop talking or to be less noisy.  2.Ways of telling someone to stop talking or to be quiet, keep your voice down.

Quiet:  1. making little or no noise.  2. carried out discreetly, secretly, or with moderation.

Silent:  1. not making or accompanied by any sound.  2. not expressed aloud.  3. of a person not speaking.

Still:  1. not moving or making a sound.  2. deep silence and calm; stillness.

Calm:  1. not showing or feeling nervousness, anger, or other strong emotions.  2. pleasantly free.  3.  the absence of violent or confrontational activity within a place or group.  4. make tranquil and quiet; soothe.

Tranquil:  1. free from disturbance

Soothe:  1. gently calm.  2. reduce pain or discomfort.  3. relieve or ease.

Ease:  1. absence of difficulty or effort

I know it's been a long time since my last blog entry...  As excited as I am about the New Year being here and the relevance of the year being 20/20 my spirit is saying at this moment "shhh" and when that happens I listen.

As I was looking to define "shhh" of course other words came up and before I knew it I had more than one word that was arising in my spirit all speaking to what I'm feeling inside and primarily saying the same thing in a different way.

Let's dive in..."Shhh" is an action word, usually in the form of a command from one person to another. "Shhh" is powerful, in order to adhere to the command of "Shhh" it takes discipline, poise, and self-control.  Hearing the sound of "Shhh" may even have one check their ego at the door depending on who it is that is doing the "Shushing"  Whether we hear the command of "shhh" internally or externally it's up to us to recognize the opportunity to be still in that moment. It's wonderful to be still in the silence, not moving, being free of disturbance, calm and gentle. It's there in that calmness and quiet where you can command peace to be still with you allowing tranquility to sit with you, be present with you, freeing you from all the disturbances of discomfort and pain.

Actually, this is the best time to adhere to the "Shhh" within. Starting the New Year 20/20 in silence after all the hustle and bustle of the Holidays will allow for reflection, a clearer sense of direction that will be soothing and comforting to your spirit and soul.

After all, we are walking to win!

Love Alwayzz,

Lolita Love

"Some things are better left not said."

~Bernard Shaw, News Anchor

"Discipline"

November 23, 2017                                                                     

 "Discipline"

Discipline:  1. training to act in accordance with rules; drill.  2. activity, exercise, or a regimen that develops or improves a skill; training.  3. behavior in accord with rules of conduct.  4. to train by instruction and exercise; drill.  5. to bring to a state of order and obedience by training and control.

In order to be a #walkingwomanthatwins, I know that I have to be a #disciplinedwoman to win.

 Setting goals and living up to the goals that are set requires discipline by demonstrating self-control and self-mastery.  We must speak to ourselves and bring our minds and bodies into subjection of the words that we feed our inner selves.  The apostle Paul said in I Corinthians that he keeps under his body, and brings it into subjection, prior to that the Apostle said that he doesn't run or do anything uncertainly, he doesn't fight as one that beateth the air, nor does he preach to others without first putting himself under subjection lest he be a castaway.  He approaches life with certainty as we must. We truly want to be victorious we must train ourselves daily to practice self-discipline. Speaking to ourselves is a form of conditioning our minds, a way of inuring and habituating in order to toughen and harden ourselves to be winners by establishing powerful daily success-habits.

What I can say without a shadow of doubt, is that we can reward ourselves as champions in life in whatever field we endeavor to explore, by knowing that when we dare to discipline daily, it gives us confidence in knowing that our daily preparations and practices will yield us without exception the desires of our hearts!

How do we discipline ourselves?  Practice, practice, practice!  Try, try, try!  Have you heard the old saying, "If at first, you don't succeed, try, try, again!"

That's what discipline is, practice, focus, and self-control of the mind. For example; I want to lose weight.........I start day one by setting a goal to consume fewer calories and exercise.  Exercising requires me to get up 30 minutes earlier.  I wake up day one and two on target feeling good about myself.  Day three, however, I oversleep, the disciplined me will not let that discourage myself by beating myself up and giving up because of 30 minutes and I will know that there are 24 hours in a day and I will find 30 minutes within those 24 hours to stay focused and on track!

We must discipline all areas of our lives to be victorious. It's important to watch what we speak and how we speak.  Remember that our eyes and ears are the gatekeepers of our souls. Watch whom you choose to associate with. Take time out daily to sit with yourself to meditate and pray. Connect to your spirit man, be aware of your consciousness and well being.  These are the keys factors to sustaining a powerfully effective, successful, disciplined life! 

 "All men can see the tactics whereby I conquer, but what none can see is the strategy out of which victory is evolved."
~Sun Tzu

"Give whatever you are doing and whoever you are with the gift of your attention!"
~Jim Rohn

"If you understand others you are smart.

If you understand yourself you are illuminated.

If you overcome others you are powerful.

If you overcome yourself you have strength.

If you know how to be satisfied you are rich.

If you can act with vigor, you have a will.

If you don't lose your objectives you can be long-lasting.

If you die without loss, you are eternal.

~Lao Tzu

Leading w/Lolita

"Unlock Tomorrow, Today!"

~Lolita

Laugh w/Lolita

Q:  Why did the farmer bury all his money?

A:   To make his soil rich!

Pray w/Lolita
Heavenly Father In The Name of Jesus, I thank you for your word that it will not return unto you void. I thank you that your word is sharper than any two-edged sword, able to divide between bone and marrow. I declare healing, restoration, prosperity, and peace to all who reads these words in Jesus' name, Amen!

"Broken Heart........!"

November 22, 2017

                                                         "Broken Heart...........!"

Heart: 1. a muscular organ in vertebrates that receives blood from the veins and pumps it through the arteries to oxygenate the blood during its circuit.  3. the center of the total personality, esp. with reference to intuition, feeling, or emotion.  4. the center of emotion, esp. as contrasted to the head as the center of the intellect.  5. capacity for sympathy; feeling; affection.  6. spirit, courage or enthusiasm.  7. the innermost or central part of anything.  8. the vital or essential part; core.  9. breast or bosom.  18. break someone's heart, to cause someone to be utterly devastated by sorrow or disappointment.  20. eat one's heart out, to grieve inconsolably.  26. in one's heart of hearts, in one's private thoughts or feelings; deep within one.

Heartbreak:  1. n. great sorrow or anguish

Heartbroken: 1. adj. crushed with sorrow or grief

Take Heart:  32.  to regain one's courage; become heartened.  34. to wear one's heart on one's sleeve, to allow one's feelings, esp. of love to show.  35. with all one's heart, eagerly; cordially.

I had to start from the beginning to make some sense of how I could allow myself to merely exist over the last year or so.  I've literally been walking around aimlessly allowing my subconscious to take over the helm while I floated adrift in the murky waters of life! 

Without going too deep into details one night everything as I knew it changed.  What I thought was so wasn't and it's taken me almost two years to reconcile with myself.  As you can see from the definition of heart, we know what it is and what it does, we understand that our hearts are a literal organ that pumps blood from our veins through our arteries oxygenating the blood. Without the literal function of the heart, we would cease to exist. We need our hearts to have a continuous flow of blood circulating for us to live.  Our hearts also have other functions, at the center of our hearts is our personalities, emotions, and feelings.  Our hearts are like our grand central station!  Our hearts are the center of our being, our spirit man, our intellect, our feelings of compassion and affection.  Our hearts illuminates with enthusiasm, intuitively bold, courageous with vitality and tenacity! 

With everything great about our hearts, sometimes in our lives, we may experience heartbreak.  About a year ago my heart was broken, crushed, anguished, with deep, deep, sorrow. I didn't think that it could be repaired.  I didn't realize just how much having a broken heart could take out of you and away from you. I was on top of the world!  God had healed me of cancer 3 times!  Life couldn't have been any better for me!  I stopped everything.  I stopped living my life.  I stopped participating in living socially, emotionally, and spiritually. I couldn't participate in life.  My brokenness had taken over and I spiraled out of control.  I was at the edge and I jumped!  Now, I didn't know I jumped, I didn't realize I took the plunge of despair but I did. It wasn't some big, huge drastic decision that I decided to wake up one day and do.  No, no, no!  It was a gradual decline.  I should have known that I was getting in too deep and too far when I stopped writing & walking but like I said it was a gradual thing.  One day I wouldn't walk and I would say okay I'll do it tomorrow. Or I would put off writing in my blog, or I would turn down going to an event, and before I knew it I was standing on the scale and it said; "Lolita, you weigh 242 lbs!" 

"Hence the saying: If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle!"
~Sun Tzu

Now, I'm taking heart!  I'm regaining my courage eagerly with passion and grit! I am a "Walking Woman that Wins!"

I AM BADASS! 

I look forward to living my life to the full until it overflows............!  I am going to walk off 125 lbs. of sludge! 

Much Love,

Lo Lo from P.O.
Lolita Mamacita!   
#walkingwomanwinning!  

Leading w/Lolita
"The consummate  leader cultivates the moral law, and strictly adheres to method and discipline; thus it is in his power to control success."
~Sun Tzu                                                                                                                                                                     
Laughing w/ Lolita
Q  What is smarter than a talking bird
A.  A spelling bee!
                                                                 
Loving w/Lolita
Nothing is impossible if we believe, act, we'll achieve.

"Perseverance!"

March 26, 2016

    "Perseverance!"

Perseverance:  1. steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, etc., in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragements.  

Persistent:  1. persisting stubbornly; insistent.  2. lasting or enduring tenaciously.  3. constantly repeated, continued permanently; remaining attached beyond the usual time.  

Tenacious:  1. holding fast; characterized by keeping a firm hold.  2. highly retentive, persistent, stubborn or obstinate.  4. adhesive or sticky; holding together, cohesive; tough.


Goodmorning everybody!  As I was sitting here preparing my thoughts and spirit to write, I knew that I was going to speak to perseverance because that word has been in my spirit for a little over a week now but I didn't know just how REAL my very own words were going to have to be adhered to by me as my OWN testimony to living by, especially NOW, TODAY!  

I was prepared to sit down and just write and talk about setting goals and sticking to the goals you set with perseverance, being steady in a course of action with dogged determination and purpose in spite of your difficulties, obstacles or discouragements.  That sounds good, right?  We can do that, right?  Absolutely we can but what do we do when we're hit with a real discouragement?  

What do we do when a real obstacle is before us like finding out moments ago that your online merchant account, your online retail business is shut down!  

You, as of this very moment that you're about to give your motivational pep talk to tell the world, yes you can persevere, yes you can move past any and all obstacles, yes you can get off the couch and from in front of the television and put that remote control down and go out into the elements and get some fresh air and walk!  Yes ladies and gentleman when you find out that you can no longer get your money, and your baby, your lofty dreams, desires, ambitions of being an online retail mogul, giant, is not available for service and on top of that customer service is closed for the weekend so you're left in limbo as to what's happening with your business? 

Can you still stay focused enough to see past the current state of affairs to remain steadfast with dogged determination as you feel like your head is being held under water not being able to breathe because this situation is now causing major difficulties?   Do we have the dogged determination to move forward at a steady pace by staying on course or do we allow a setback to sideline?  

I think not, in fact, I know not!  We take our setbacks and use them as our comebacks!  We find the lessons to be learned in any and all situations of what to do?  Or, what not to do?  Keep it moving with persistence by remaining attached beyond the usual time.  Tenacity is key!  Keep a firm hold by being stubbornly persistent like an adhesive, hold on, stick wth it. Don't give up and Persevere!  You can do it!

Love Alwayzz,

Lo Lo from P.O / Lolita Mamacita

"Each of us should make the most of our lives.
We should give life our best, let us use our lives
more wisely to chase our dreams, 
find our true purpose, and be as happy
and successful as possible!"
~Malcolm X.

"Lights, Camera, Action!"

February 17, 2016

"Lights, Camera, Action!"

1. Light;  something that makes things visible or affords illumination.  2. an illuminating agent or source, as the sun, a lamp or a beacon.  3. the radiance or illumination from a particular source, as a candle or the sun.  4. a particular light or illumination in which an object seen takes on a certain appearance, a device for or meas of igniting as a spark, flame or match.  5. spiritual illumination or awareness, mental insight, understanding, to be awakened.

Have you ever gone to see a play and when you first get in the auditorium you see the stage and up on the stage is this huge curtain that's closed and wondered what is going on behind the curtain?  I have, when I'm sitting in the audience I'm thinking to myself what is going on back behind the curtain?  I know that there must be a stage crew, camera man, someone in the sound booth, a director, the actors, etc.  There's a lot of work that's put into making a great production and understandably so.  We arrive with the anticipation and expectation of a great show.  We know that we've paid good money and look forward to the actors coming out onto the stage to wow us.  We assume that everyone is rested, and have taken their jobs seriously enough to have studied and know their lines. The bottom line is we want to be entertained.

What about life?  How do we approach our own lives?  Do we wake up daily with the expectation and in anticipation of having a great day?  Do we put forth our best efforts in our lives to live the best life we can?  Do we study to show ourselves approved?  Do we learn all their is to learn about our bodies, minds and souls to make sure we operate at maximum capacity with energy, and vitality in order to perform at optimal levels?

Our life is a stage and we must awaken every day and approach our lives as if we are on stage and people have paid good money to see a great show.  The caveat is we must believe, think and know that we are the audience of our own stage production called life.  We must be prepared behind the scenes of our lives so that when the curtain opens we know that what we've done behind the scenes has prepared us for center stage when life says, "Lights, Camera, Action!"  Are you ready to give your life and yourself your best production?  

And, when the final curtain closes on our lives are we going to hear the sounds of the audience of our friends, families, co-workers and complete strangers give us a standing ovation and say bravo, bravo, bravo?  Will they say encore, well done thy good and faithful servant?

Love Always,

La La Lolita Lovely

"You don't drown by falling in water, you
drown by staying in it!"
~Zig Ziglar

"Others are quick to point out what you should be, but
you're the only person who can decide what you will be."
~Dave Steward

"Unlock Tomorrow, Today!"
~Lolita Jackson

February 9, 2016

Acres of Diamonds!

I read a book a couple of days ago called "Acres of Diamonds."  The book was originally a speech by Dr. Russell Conwell who first delivered the speech to motivate and inspire his troops at their ten year reunion and afterwards was asked to deliver the same speech thousands of times to people in cities throughout the country.  Russell Conwell was the first president of Temple University, a baptist minister and a captain during the civil war.

There's many lessons that can be extracted from Dr. Conwell's speech.  I am inspired mostly with the premise of the books commentary that lets us know that we must first explore our own backyards for  wealth, money and opportunities in life before we go out to seek and search the world for what we could have right in the palms of our hands!  Dr. Conwell's speech tells of many stories of people who give up what they have in their hands in search of wealth and opportunity elsewhere.  One of the scenarios tells the story of a man that owned a farm and by all accounts was fairly successful, "wealthy and contended" with his comforts only to hear that diamonds were being discovered.  The farmer sold his farm to go in search of diamonds until he found himself broke, distraught, tired and confused so much so that he threw himself into the ocean.  The man who bought the farm from the man found "Acres of Diamonds" on the farm!

Dr. Conwell dismisses the notion that money is the root of all evil and reminds us that it's the "love of money" that's the root of all evil and that one must have money and wealth to further the cause of philanthropy while allowing ourselves to live comfortably. We're encouraged to have businesses and know our customers to better serve them and know that it's not criminal to make a profit off of our earnings in business. Dr. Conwell let's us know that we should be vigilant, steadfast and we must apply ourselves completely to the tasks at hand while earning our keep without having things handed to us and if we fail or fall down in the process it's not the end of the world in fact falling down is actually failing forward and like Les Brown says, "if you fall down, land on your back because if you can look up then you can get up!"  Dr. Conwell spoke of a man that gambled in business and lost but he didn't give up, he kept trying different ideas and endeavors until he had only 62 cents left and he turned 62 cents into 40 million dollars!

Reading "Acres of Diamonds" has me looking in my own backyard asking the question of myself, "Lolita, what do you have in your hand that can net you "Acres of Diamonds?" As I look around I see and know how blessed I am to have been given the gift of creativity!  I'm constantly and consistently coming up with one idea after another that I know can net me "Acres of Diamonds!"

  It reminds me of a passage in the bible when God spoke to Moses and asked him "What does he have in his hand?"  I believe there comes a time when we all get to the "Red Sea" of life and we look out and things look insurmountable, so wide that we can't get around it, so tall that we can't climb over it, but God has given us a way, a staff.  We must throw our staff into the sea and watch it part.
 
Our staffs can come in many forms starting with the form of faith. We must first have faith enough to believe that we are equipped and worthy to have acres of diamonds in the palms of our hands that comes in the forms of ideas and thoughts that can generate the very thing we need to part our "Red Sea" in life!  Then we must act with a sense of urgency and modesty!

So my friends, how about it?  Let's throw out our staffs into our "Red Seas" and discover our "Acres of Diamonds" right in our own backyards!


Take Care Beloveds,

Love Always,

La La Lolita Lovely!


"You cannot make it as a wondering generality.
You must become a meaningful specific."
~Zig Ziglar

"There are seldom, if ever, any hopeless situations,
but there are many people who lose hope in the face
of some situations."
~Zig Ziglar



  

"Footprints In The Sand!"

January 1, 2016

"Footprints In The Sand........."

One night I had a dream.  I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord.  Across the sky flashed scenes from my life, for each scene I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand, one belonging to me, and the other to the Lord.

When the last scene of my life flashed before me, I looked back at the footprints in the sand, I noticed that many times along the path of my life there was only one set of footprints.  I also noticed that it happened at the very lowest and saddest times in my life.  

This really bothered me and I questioned the Lord about it; "Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you, you'd walk with me all the way.  But I have noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life there is only one set of footprints.  I don't understand why when I need you most you would leave me?"

The Lord replied; "My precious Lolita, I Love You and would never leave you. Lolita my dear, during your times of trial and suffering, when you see only one set of footprints, it was then Lolita that I carried you!"

by Mary Stevenson

Revised by Lolita Jackson

Sometimes life will happen and we must accept life on life's terms. In doing so, we may find that we're alone and we may also be feeling lonely.  It's during those times in our lives that we can rest assured in knowing that God is carrying us to the other side of the troubling times that hath so easily beset us.  I'm learning to take advantage of the times that I may be alone and in that time and space I'm finding out that I'm better equipped to hear what God is saying to me.  God's word says; "My sheep know my voice and the voice of a stranger they will not follow!"  The only way we can truly know if it's our heavenly father or not is to make allowances for the solitude.  In that space we will find wisdom for direction, peace for turmoil, and tranquility for endurance!

In Solidarity,

LaLa Lolita Lovely

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.  The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly.... who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while Daring Greatly!"

~Theodore Roosevelt

"Wake Up!"

August 19, 2015

I heard part of this song last night while watching a television show and some of the lyrics resonated with my soul.......  I found it on You Tube and I've been playing it continually ever since!  I want to share the lyrics to this song.  Tell me if you can relate?

"Wake Up!"

~by NF

You spend your life in a dream that you can't escape

Cause you live your life in a coma, you're never awake

If you'd open your eyes then maybe you'd see what's at stake

You're sleeping, you're sleeping

You make a lot of money and you live in a mansion

And pretty much got everything that you could ever imagine

But you feel like even though you got everything in the world

You got nothing, so what you do then is you start going backwards

You runnin' in a direction and you lookin' for something that isn't real

And all you know is that you just gotta have it

What you're doin is sleepin'

And thinking that you're awake and you're not

And the problem is that you don't know what you're after

So you put everything that you have into what you do

Hoping that one day maybe you don't have to feel like you're empty

But as you get older a lot of weight on your shoulders is getting heavy

Then you look back and you start to regret things

You only get one life and every time you lookin' at yours

You feel like everything you have is a waste!

And the problem and the reason you could never fill a hole in your life

Is because you were never AWAKE!

You spend your life in a dream that you can't escape

Cause you live your life in a coma, you're never AWAKE!

Wake Up, Wake Up, Wake Up, Wake Up!

Wake Up, Wake Up, Wake Up, Wake Up!

You wake up in the morning

But you feel like you never got up and go to work

And you feelin' like you ain't got a purpose

And you tryna get motivated but everything you do turns into a mess!

Like you ain't nothing but worthless.........

And, yo, you look around a lot of these other people you lookin' at

To you, you describe as perfect so you point a finger at God and tell him to do his job

And fix ya' life up cause nothin' is workin!

And you will try to hide and make it seem like it's nothin;

But really you feel like everything is crashin' around you

And you develop a problem in trustin; in other people

Which later became an issue that will mentally pound you!

You only get one life

But every time you lookin' at yours you feel like you ever see are mistakes

And the problem and the reason you could never move forward in life

Is because you were never AWAKE!

WAKE UP! 

You spend your life in a dream that you can't escape

Cause you live your life in a coma, you're never AWAKE!

Wake Up, Wake Up, Wake Up, Wake Up!

Wake Up, Wake Up, Wake Up, Wake Up!

Lyrics By:

~NF

"For a dream cometh through the multitude of business; and a fool's voice

is known by multitude of words......"  (KJV)

"As a dream comes when there are many cares, so the speech of a fool

when there are many words!"  (NIV)

Love Alwayzz,

Lolita Lovely

"I Hope You Dance........Yes, I Am Dancing!!"

July 27, 2015

"I Hope You Dance! / Yes, I Am Dancing!"

    ~by Lee Ann Womack

"I hope you never lose your sense of wonder,

You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger,

May you never take one single breath for granted,

GOD forbid love ever leave you empty handed,

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean,

Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens,

Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance,

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance,

I Hope You Dance.......... I Hope You Dance

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance,

Never settle for the path of least resistance

Livin' might mean takin' chances but they're worth takin'

Lovin' might be a mistake but it's worth makin'

Don't let some hell bent heart leave you bitter,

When you come close to sellin' out reconsider,

Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance,

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance.

I Hope You Dance........I Hope You Dance

Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along,

Tell me who wants to look back on their years and wonder where those years have gone?

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean,

Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens,

Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance,

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance

I HOPE YOU DANCE!!!

~Lyrics to the song "I Hope You Dance by: Lee Ann Womack!!"

Loving You More Than Forever,

And Forever More I'll Always Love You!

~by Lolita Jackson

"I pay attention to my inner callings,

and apply my own uniqueness to everything

I undertake!

~Wisdom of the TAO

"R.O.A.R.!!"

July 8, 2015

I heard this song earlier tonight and the lyrics pierced my soul!  Enjoy........!

"R.O.A.R.!"

by Katy Perry

I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath

Scared to rock the boat and make a mess

So I sat quietly, agree politely

I guess that I forgot I had a CHOICE! 

I let you push me past the breaking point

I stood for nothing, so I fell for everything!

You held me down, but I got up (Hey!)

Already brushing off the dust

You hear my voice, you hear that sound

Like thunder gonna shake the ground

You held me down, but I got up (Hey!)

Get ready 'cause I've had enough

I see it all, I see it now

I got the "Eye Of The Tiger, Fighter, Dancing The Fire"

'Cause I am a Champion, and You're Gonna Hear Me ROAR!

LOUDER, LOUDER Than A LION

'Cause I AM A CHAMPION & You're Gonna Hear Me ROAR!

Now I'm floating like a Butterfly

Stinging like a bee, I earned my stripes

I went from zero, to MY OWN HERO!

You held me down, but I Got UP!

Already Brushing Off The Dust!

You Hear My Voice?  You Hear That Sound?

Like Thunder Gonna Shake The Ground!

I GOT THE EYE OF THE TIGER 

A FIGHTER, DANCING THROUGH THE FIRE

'CAUSE I AM A CHAMPION!

&

YOU'RE GONNA HEAR ME ROAR

OH Oh Oh Oh Oh Oh Oh!!!

 By Katy Perry

"What am I willing to sacrifice to become what I want to become?"

"Your present circumstances don't determine where you go; they merely determine where you start!" 

~Nido Qubein

"Excellence is attained when you care more than others think is wise; risk more than others think is safe; dream more than others think is practical; expect more than others think is possible!"

~Jim Gentil

Love Always,

La La Lolita Lovely

"To Dream or Not To Dream?"

July 7, 2015

"To Dream or Not To Dream?"

Dreams:  1. a succession of images, thoughts or emotions passing through the mind during sleep.  
2.  a particular sequence of such images, thoughts, or feelings; an involuntary vision occurring to a person when awake.  3. daydream or reverie; an aspiration, goal, aim, a wild or vain fancy.  4. something unreal or striking beauty, charm, or excellence, to conceive of something in a very remote way, to imagine as possible, fancy, conceive; to form in the imagination.

Dreamer:  1. a person who has bold or highly speculative ideas or plans; visionary.


     How old are you?  Should that matter if you're a dreamer?  When should a person abandon their dreams?  When is dreaming unrealistic, a mere fantasy of the imagination?  Should age be a factor when determining whether your dreams are obtainable or not?

I believe the questions are valid and definitely worth entertaining when it comes to having dreams and aspirations in your life.  A person would definitely have to be realistic as to whether their dreams are just a mere fantasy, or if they can become an attainable goal that can be reached with aim and focus.

If there is a burning desire in your spirit that keeps you awake at night and your soul won't rest until you grease your squeaky wheels, then I say that you have to go for it and it's not too late!

Don't let the F.alse, E.xpectations, that A.ppear R.eal (F.E.A.R.) get in your way and keep you stuck.

Live your life to the fullest and go for your dreams.  What ever it is that you aspire to do and be, you can do it!  Let the bold, highly speculative ideas of your imagination lift you above mediocrity.  Be a person of excellence.  If your mind can conceive it, you can achieve it!  All things are possible to them that believe!

You are a Visionary!  You see things that others don't see.  God has put greatness inside of you!  Today is your day!


Take Care,

Love Always,

La La Lolita Lovely

"Never test the depth of the river with both feet!"

~Warren Buffett

"The point of living is to believe the best is yet to come."

~Peter Ustinov

"Live life fully while you're here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You're going to anyway, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes; find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don't try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human!

~TONY ROBBINS

"Psalms 25:4,5"

July 6, 2015

"Psalms 25:4,5"

"Show me your ways,

O Lord, teach me your paths;

guide me in your truth and teach me,

for you are God my Savior;

and my hope is in you all day long!"

My prayer I share with you today!

Love Always,

La La Lolita Lovely

"Humor With Lolita!"

July 5, 2015

"Laughing With Lolita!"

"I hate it when people are at your house and they ask, "Hey do you have a bathroom?"

"You can't always control who walks into your life, but you can control which window to throw them out."

"I really need a day between Saturday and Sunday!"

"A friend is like a good bra.......... Hard to find, Supportive, Comfortable, Always lifts you up, Makes you look better, Always........Close to your heart!!"

"I think it's funny that people who treat you like crap get offended when you finally do the same to them!"

"My dog ate the hot-dogs I left out so they wouldn't spoil!"

"When people tell me I'm gonna regret that in the morning, I sleep until noon because I'm a problem solver!"

"My bed is a magical place where I suddenly remember everything I was supposed to do!"

Take Care,

Love Always,

La La Lolita Lovely!


"Millionaires understand that they possess innate talents and gifts.  They accentuate their positive strengths and skills.  They refuse to permit what they can't do to interfere with what they can do, what they are uniquely gifted to do!"

"Open the door and I'll get it myself!"
~James Brown

"The greatest of evils and the worst of crimes is poverty.  Our first duty, a duty to which every other consideration should be sacrificed, is not to be poor!"
~George Bernard Shaw

"The Little Engine That Could!"

July 4, 2015

"The Little Engine That Could!"

I know, I know! Ha Ha Ha Ha..........  You're probably thinking what in the world are you talking about Lolita?  What can you tell me about that book that I haven't heard before?

The answer is nothing!  Most people have read the story more times than they care to admit, but for some of us like myself, I can't get enough of the book and the story line!  I love to read the story to my grandsons and in anticipation of their arrival to grandma's house later this month for summer vacation I pulled out some of the books I have for us to read together and wouldn't you know it, up popped "The Little Engine That Could!"  As I was reading it, it made me think about what the book was saying from a different perspective......

The story starts off with a happy little choo choo train that was full of toys, dolls and food that was to be delivered to some kids in need on the other side of the mountain.  The little train was full of excitement in anticipation of the joy that was going to be given to the recipients of his items until the train started to have problems making it up the hill.  He couldn't go any further, he was going to need some help.

It made me think about life, sometimes we start out on a journey, a mission full of excitement and anticipation with the intention to do good for others and in return that makes us feel good within ourselves.  We start out strong, without a care in the world because we are givers, we want to make other people happy, then we run into a bump in the road just like the little train, you're stalled in need of some help.  For some it may just take a pair of jumper cables to help you move forward.  For others it may take someone to get out a tow rope to pull you forward, or maybe, just maybe you may need a tow, you may need to get hoisted up on the back of another vehicle, or need someone to put you on their back and literally carry you on to your destination so that you can get to the other side of the mountain!

The little engine found that not everyone that came along the tracks were as happy to help him get to the other side of the mountain.  One train came by that was "Shiny" glistening, you know a show boat, a train that could be seen from miles away from the outside, but lacked on the inside, wouldn't dare be caught trying to help someone else.  Then came another train, a strong train, you know that kind of train, it had power, a tough exterior, but lacked on the inside, it too kept going.  Then came the "Little Blue Engine!"  Not too "Shiny" not too "Strong & Mighty" just a little engine that didn't have much from the outside, yet his heart had character that couldn't be seen but it was "Strong, Shiny & Mighty!"  That engine hitched the little choo choo and All the toys, dolls and food and Talked his way up and over the mountain!  He told himself that he "think he can" he "think he can" until he did!

It's not always the ones that look the look from the outside or that talk a good game with the strong powerful voice that has it on the inside.  That's why we can't judge a book by it's cover.

We never know who God will send our way to be our "Little Engine That Could" to help us get to the other side of the mountain.

My prayer today is for me to be "The Little Engine That Could!" to help someone else get to the other side of the Mountain!

Because............................

"I Think I Can, I Think I Can!!

Take Care,

Love Always,

La La Lolita Lovely

"Motivating Mentors!"

July 3, 2015

"Motivating Mentors!"

Motivate:  1. to provide with a motive, or motives; incite, impel. 

Motive:  1. something that causes a person to act in a certain way, do a certain thing, incentive.

Mentor:  1. a wise and trusted counselor, or teacher.  

"Success in life comes not from holding a good hand, but by playing a poor hand well."

~Robert Louis Stevenson

"We need faith filled men and women who are energetic enough, bold enough, determined enough, and gritty enough to sign their name on the front of a paycheck as well as the back."

~ Leah Brown

"Never be bullied into silence.  Never allow yourself to be made a victim.  Accept no one's definition of your life, define yourself!"  ~ Harvey Fierstein

"Optimism is essential to achievement and it is also the foundation of courage and true progress."

~Lloyd Alexander

"The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of Hell, a hell of Heaven.  ~John Milton

"The difference between the impossible and the possible lies in a man's determination."

~Tommy Lasorda

Take Care,

Love Always,

La La Lolita Lovely

"Emotional Intelligence?"

July 2, 2015

"Emotional Intelligence?"

Emotional:  1. pertaining to or involving the emotions.

Emotion:  1. an affective state of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, etc; is experienced as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness.

Intelligence:  1. capacity for learning, reasoning and understanding; aptitude in grasping truths, relationships, facts, meanings, etc.  2. mental alertness or quickness of understandi

Have you heard of "Emotional Intelligence?"  Daniel Goleman  wrote the book "Emotional Intelligence" linking emotions with intelligence.

In the book Goleman reasoned emotional intelligence with increased skills that will foster growth in self - awareness, self regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.  All of us have base line levels of competencies and cognitive abilities or IQ that's supposed, but it's our emotional intellect and social skill sets that distinguishes leaders and sets them apart and above average.

People with the propensity for high levels of  "Emotional Intelligence" have harnessed and nurtured their soft skill sets.  While for most the development of soft skills comes with maturity it's also derived from the innate desire to grow by applying initiative and perseverance to develop and manage behavior, impulses and social consciousness!


Take Care,
Love Always,
La La Lolita Lovely


"Don't follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail."
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

"This Is My Fight Song.........!!!

July 1, 2015

     Rachel Platten has a hit song out right now called "Fight Song!" I'm sharing the lyrics of her song because it's my "Anthem!"  My get up and go song.  It's most appropriate for me especially now because I've been in a battle for the last few weeks, the fight of my life and I've been hit hard, in fact; I was knocked out!!    

     At the beginning of 2015 I committed to making a daily entry on my blog site "Walking Women Win" for an entire year, 365 days!  At the half-way mark, at the beginning of June one thing after another started happening it seemed as if my life was falling apart.  I was on a spinning wheel that I didn't think would ever stop!!!  I didn't know how to jump off, and then I didn't know how I was going to jump back on!

     Well, look at God!  Not only did I jump off, but I jumped back on!  I'm back in the ring of life with my boxing gloves on singing my song!

Like Mamie Brown's baby boy Les Brown says; "If you get hit and fall, land on your back because if you're looking up, you can get up!!"

I'm up yall!  Haaaaaay!

 I'll double up on my blogs until I have ALL of JUNE recorded for those of you who missed your DAILY Word!!

"This Is My Fight Song!"

by Rachel Patten

Like a small boat on the ocean

Sending big waves into motion

Like how a single word can make a heart open

I might only have one match but I can make an explosion

And all those things I didn't say, 

Wrecking balls inside my brain

I will scream them loud tonight

Can you hear my voice this time?

This Is My Fight Song

Take Back My Life Song

Prove I'm Alright Song

My Power's Turned On

Starting Right Now, I'll Be Strong

I'll Play My Fight Song

AND I DON'T REALLY CARE IF NOBODY ELSE BELIEVES

'CAUSE I'VE STILL GOT A LOT OF FIGHT LEFT IN ME!!!!

Losing friends and I'm chasing sleep

Everybody's worried about me

In too deep

Say I'm in too deep (I'm in too deep!)

And it's been two years (8 for Lolita)

I miss my home, but there's a fire burning in my bones

And I still believe

Yeah I still believe

And all those things I didn't say

Wrecking balls inside my brain

I will scream them loud tonight

Can you hear my voice this time?

THIS IS MY FIGHT SONG

TAKE BACK MY LIFE SONG

PROVE I'M ALRIGHT SONG

MY POWER'S TURNED ON

STARTING RIGHT NOW, I'LL BE STRONG!!

Song By:  Rachel Platten

"No weapon formed against me shall prosper, for my righteousness is of the Lord.  But whatever I do will prosper for I'm like a tree that's planted by the rivers of water."  (Isa. 54:17; Ps. 1:3)

Love Always,

La La Lolita Lovely

"Power of Two......."

June 4, 2015

"Power of Two!"

"For where two or more are gathered together in my name, touching and agreeing on anything that they shall ask; there I am in the midst of them!"  
~ Matthew 18:20


We all know that there's "Power" in prayer, but did you know that you can move a "Mountain" when you touch and agree with another person?

     I have witnessed the miracles that come with standing in agreement with another person.  I believe that everyone needs to have that one person in their lives that they can call upon to stand in the gap for them on their behalf.  Someone that you know has a mega phone that reaches God's ears.  If you don't, please find one and watch how miracles will start happening in your life.

You need to pray about it and find that one person that believes in you, and will support you.

     Your person must be able to STAND for you.  Your person must trust you and what you are believing God for even if they don't understand they must trust you.

The key thing to remember is that the word says; "touching and agreeing" that's what you need, a toucher and an agreeer! (Smile) I know, that's not grammatically correct!  I just want you to get what I'm saying and understand the magnitude of it.  It's major!

I have such a person in my life. I know that this person has that mega phone that reaches God.  I can call morning, noon or night and know that she'll drop everything, including her knees and will agree with me, on my behalf and we sit back and wait on God to be God, to do what God does, and that's giving his children whatever it is that's their hearts desire.

I challenge you to find your partner and team up so that you too can experience and enjoy the
"Power of Two!"


Take Care My Beloved!

Love Always,

La La Lolita Lovely

"Whatever reason you had for not being somebody, there's somebody who

had that same problem and overcame it."

~ Barbara Reynolds

"Nobody can dim the light which shines from within!"

~ Maya Angelou

"A wise person speaks carefully and with truth, for every word

that passes between one's teeth is meant for something!"

~ Moleti Kete Asanti

"Decisions........"

June 3, 2015


Decisions:  1.  the act or process of deciding.  2. the act of making up one's mind, something that is decided; resolution, firmness.

Decide:  1.  to solve or conclude.  2.  to determine or settle; persuade or convince.

     Sometimes, making a decision can be the hardest thing in the world for a person to do.  In order to make a decision it calls for a person to make up their mind with a resounding firmness.

My father used to always say to me, "Make a decision, and stick to the decision that you make!"  No matter what you want to do in life, you have to first make a decision and then stick to the decision that you make.

Be determined when it comes to making your decision.  A double minded person is unstable in ALL their ways.  Don't be that person, come to the conclusion that you're convinced of where you want to go and you've decided what you need to do to get from point A, to point B.  Have a plan, and stick to the plan.  Be the person with a made up mind!


Take Care,

Love Alwayzz,

La La Lolita Lovely


"If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten!"  ~ Moms Mabley


"Let All Things Be Done Decently And In Order!"   ~ I Corinthians 14:40


"There does not have to be powerlessness.  The Power Is Within Ourselves!"  ~ Faye Wattleton

"Commit!"

June 2, 2015

Commit:  1. to give in trust or charge; consign.  2. to consign for preservation; to declare as having a certain opinion or position.  3, to bind or obligate, as by pledge or assurance.  4. to assign or allot for a certain purpose; to do; perform; perpetrate.

Commitment:  1. the act of committing.  2. the state of being committed.  3. pledging, engaging oneself.  4. a pledge or promise; engagement; 

"Commit!"

      On January 1, of 2015, I set a goal to blog everyday of this year 2015, of these United States of this Beautiful Country called America!

     Saying you're going to do something and actually doing it are two different things!  For me to make that kind of declaration has meant that I'm going to commit an un-wavering pledge of dedication and focus. In order for me to live up to such a commitment  has required an astounding level of concentration.  There are days that things will go wrong and will throw you off course and balance but you can't let anything get in your way that will keep you from fulfilling the goal that you have committed to.  After awhile you know that you're obligated to live up to the promise that you've made with yourself.

     My pledge to blog 365 times in one year has definitely brought me out of my comfort zone by keeping me focused and engaged with laser commitment..  I'm obligated to carry out the task of showing what a "Walking Woman That Wins" looks like.  It's not always easy, sometimes it down right frustrating enough to make you break down in tears and cry, especially when your computer breaks down, or your service is temporarily disrupted and you find yourself going back to the old school way of communicating by writing in a journal and then having to take the time to now log in your back log of entries until you're caught up!

A full commitment has meant that at times I'm up until 3:00 in the morning logging and blogging to get the job done!

     That's what it takes to commit to something wholeheartedly!  It takes a binding pledge of assurance that you've promised to carry out the task at hand no matter what road blocks may be put in your path

.  A full commitment means you'll find a way to go around, over and through the barriers of your comfort zone in order to experience the joy of a "Fulfilled Promised Purpose!"


Take Care,

Love Alwayzzzzzzzzz,

La La Lolita Lovely

"Living is easy with eyes closed,

misunderstanding all you see!"

~John Lennon